There are four basic parenting styles that we associate with different aspects of children's development, thanks to Baumrind. You never really look into what "type" your parents are. I never knew about the different types/styles, until my freshmen year of college. Where I took Psychology 101 and learn the four types of parenting styles.
Which are:Authoritarian parents are highly demanding and directive, but not responsive. "They are obedience- and status-oriented, and expect their orders to be obeyed without explanation" (Baumrind, 1991, p. 62). These parents provide well-ordered and structured environments with clearly stated rules. Authoritative parents are both demanding and responsive. "They monitor and impart clear standards for their children’s conduct. They are assertive, but not intrusive and restrictive. Their disciplinary methods are supportive, rather than punitive. They want their children to be assertive as well as socially responsible, and self-regulated as well as cooperative" (Baumrind, 1991, p. 6 Neglectful parents are low in both responsiveness and demandingness. In extreme cases, this parenting style might encompass both rejecting–neglecting and neglectful parents, although most parents of this type fall within the normal range. Indulgent parents (also referred to as "permissive" or "non directive") "are more responsive than they are demanding. They are nontraditional and lenient, do not require mature behavior, allow considerable self-regulation, and avoid confrontation" (Baumrind, 1991, p. 62). This is just a brief description of the types.
I believe now as we are adults we can look back on our own parents and apply types. It is also to see how your parents are together and how they are suppose to work together to raise you. An they both can be two different styles, that are total opposite. The types explain a lot in why you may ask one parent over the other parent. I believe your parents' style plays a large factor into your own parenting style. It can either have a negative effect: I will not be like my parents; or positive effect: I want to be like my parents.
1) What type of parenting style was/are your parents? An discuss a few examples of each parent's style.
2) What is the line between Authoritarian and Authoritative parenting?
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In my household growing up I had a mix between both parents. My father was an authoritarian. It was always his way or the highway. We cleaned when and how he wanted us to, followed his rules at all times. I barely went to him for things, and still am hesitant to approach him when I need advise, I even hesitate to approach him when I have exciting news. I remember my mother even walking on egg shells at times just so we didn't have to listen to him rant or complain. My mother on the other hand was permissive. She let us, for the most part get way with anything. At times she would display her authority, usually in a more authoritarian way but these were usually far and few between. For example she did most of the cleaning and rarely worked with my sister and I to help her. When she wasn't permissive she was screaming at us to do something around the house.
ReplyDeleteI feel the line between authoritarian and authoritative parenting is communication. When the parent is unable to communicate, and in return cannot accomodate to the childs needs and wants they are an authoritarian. Structure is needed, and views and opinions of the parents don't always need to change to be authoritative, when rules are inforced a discussion of explaination must be given to allow the child to understand why the parent is acting in such a way