As society and cultural norms change, the divorce rate continues to rise. Children as well as parents, feel the effects of divorce. This is one of the childhood issues that millions of individuals face while growing up. It is shown that children who come from divorced families are more likely to experience poor coping skills, less intimate relationships, behavior problems, and greater risk for depression or anxiety. All though some experts disagree on the negative effects divorce can leave, none will say it is easy. How do you explain to your children the concept of mommy and daddy no longer living together?
“For kids, divorce means the loss of a parent and the loss of life as they know it. Even though both parents remain physically present, a child’s sense of stability is upset because the family unit is broken apart (Helpguide.org).” Do you sugarcoat the truth to protect your children or tell them straightforward the reasons for divorce? Most recommend considering the child’s age and maturity level, but it is easier said than done. It is important to remember to reassure children that it isn’t their fault and that it is between mom and dad.
“Helping Children Understand Divorce” from University of Missouri discusses a list of wants a child requests from their mom and dad. Receiving support when problems arise, communicating directly with the other parent, allowing time spent with each parent, and staying involved in the child’s life are typical things children want after divorce.
It is comforting to know that there is ton of extra support available for children dealing with these issues. The break up of the family unit has consequences that affect each child differently. It is difficult to determine how children will develop and continue through life after divorce.
Discussion Questions:
1. Should parents stay together for the sake of their children?
2. What is your viewpoint on the negative effects divorce can have on children.
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